politely。 The vendor1 didn’t even acknowledge it。
“A sullen2 fellow; isn’t he?” I mented。
“Oh; he’s that way every night;” shrugged my friend。
“Then why do you continue to be so polite to him?” I asked。
“Why not?” inquired my friend。 “Why should I let him decide how I’m going to act?”
As I thought about this incident later; it occurred to me that the important word was “act。” My friend acts toward people; most of us react toward them。
He has a sense of inner balance which is lacking in most of us; he knows who he is; what he stands for; how he should behave。 He refuses to return incivility3 from incivility; because then he would no longer be in mand of his own conduct。
When we are enjoined in the Bible to return good for evil; we look upon this as a moral injunction—which it is。 But it is also a psychological prescription for our emotional health。
Nobody is unhappier than the perpetual reactor。 His center of emotional gravity is not rooted within himself; where it belongs; but in the world outside him。 His spiritual temperature is always being raised or lowered by the social climate around him; and he is a mere creature at the mercy of these elements。
Praise gives him a feeling of euphoria; which is false; because it does not last and it does not e from self approval4。 Criticism depresses him more than it should; because it confirms his own secretly shaky opinion of himself。 Snubs hurt him; and the merest suspicion of unpopularity in any quarter rouses him to bitterness。
A serenity of spirit cannot be achieved until we bee the masters of our own actions and attitudes。 To let another determine whether we shall be rude or gracious5; elated or depressed; is to relinquish control over our own personalities; which is ultimately all we possess。 The only true possession is self…possession。
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生命!多么宝贵的礼物啊,这是上帝赐予人类的。我们应该为能生活在这样一个美好、充满生机和无限可能的世界里而感到幸福!然而,灾难降临了,这份“礼物”给人的感觉更像是一种诅咒、一场灾难。“为什么?为什么倒霉的是我?”我们不解。我们永远无从知晓其答案,不是吗?我七岁时得了霍奇金病(译者注:这是一种病因不明的疾病,特征为淋巴结及肝脾进行性肿大及贫血),只有六个月的存活时间,而我却奇迹般地战胜了病魔。运气、希望也好,信念、勇气也罢,总之,世界上有几千个这样的幸存者!我们这些胜利者知道答案——“为什么我们没有失败,因为我们控制了它!”癌症没能将我击垮。我与癌症并存。无论以后遭遇什么困难,我都不会恐惧了,因为天生我材必有用。
大二时,班上举行一英里赛跑。那一天我永生难忘。因为手术,腿上留下了很多肿块和疤痕。我怕别人嘲笑,在恐惧中生活了两年。整整两年,我都没穿短裤。但那天,我不在乎了。我准备好了——短裤,心理和思想也都早有准备。我来到起跑线前,周围立刻议论纷纷。“好臃肿!”“真胖!”“难看死了!”对这些议论,我充耳不闻。
然后,教练大喊:“各就各位——预备——跑!”我像离弦的箭一样冲了出去,开始的20英尺,我跑得比谁都快。那时,我还不太懂控制速度,那也没关系,因为我下定决心要第一个冲到终点。一共要跑四圈。第一圈时,跑道上随处可见同学的身影。第二圈快结束时,许多同学都放弃了,停下来拼命地喘着气。当我开始跑第三圈时,跑道上只剩几个同学了,我的步履也开始蹒跚。第四圈时,跑道上就我一个人了。我突然意识到,并没有人放弃,而是他们都跑完了。跑最后一圈时,我哭了。我知道自己输给了班里的所有同学。跑了12分42秒后,我终于冲到了终点。我跌坐在地上,汗如雨下。我简直羞愧难当。
突然,教练跑过来,把我抱起,喊道:“你成功了。曼纽尔!曼纽尔,你做到了,孩子。你跑完了!”他手里挥动着一张纸条,注视着我。我忽然想起来了,那是上课前我交给他的,是那天我为自己制定的一个目标。他大声地把纸条读给大家听,上面简单地写着:“我,曼纽尔?迪耶特,无论如何,都要完成明天的一英里赛跑。痛苦和挫折并不能将我击退。因为,上帝赐予了我力量,使我有足够的能力实现这一目标,相信自己一定可以。”署名为曼纽尔?迪耶特——在字母“D”当中,我画了一张笑脸,这是我署名的一个习惯。我深受鼓舞,像吃了香蕉一样甜蜜,不禁破涕为笑。同学们都站起身来鼓掌,这是我生平第一次得到如此“礼遇”。就是在那时,我意识到,胜利并非总意味着最先完成某事,有时,仅仅完成某事也是胜利。
… 心灵小语
现代社会中有太多的不如意,生活中有太多的无奈与不协调,但我们不能因此而消沉。因为生活中还有许多美好,值得我们去体味、去珍惜。
Dare to Dream
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Life!What a precious1 gift from God。 What a blessing to be alive in a wonderful; vibrant world of unlimited possibilities。 Then; adversity strikes; and this “gift” feels more like a curse2。 “Why? Why me?” We ask。 Yet we never get an answer; or do we? After contracting Hodgkin’s disease at age seven and being given six months to live; I triumphed over the odds。 Call it luck; hope; faith or courage; there are thousands of survivors! Winners like us know the answer—“Why not us? We can handle it!” I’m not dying3 of cancer。 I’m living with cancer。 God doesn’t make junk; regardless of what es our way; and I don’t have to be afraid anymore。 txt小说上传分享
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In my sophomore4 year of high school; the class was scheduled to run the mile。 I will always remember that day because due to the swelling and scars from surgery on my leg; for two solid years I had not worn shorts。 I was afraid of the teasing。 So; for two years I lived in fear。 Yet that day; it didn’t matter。 I was ready —shorts; heart and mind。 I no sooner got to the starting line before I heard the loud whispers。“Gross !”“How fat!”“How ugly!” I blocked it out。
Then the coach yelled; “Ready。 Set。 Go!” I jetted out of there like an airplane; faster than anyone for the first 20 feet。 I didn’t know much about pacing then; but it was okay because I was determined to finish first。 As we came around the first of four laps; there were students all over the track。 By the end of the second lap; many of the students had already quit。 They had given up and were on the ground gasping for air。 As I started the third lap; only a few of my classmates were left on the track; and I began limping。 By the time I hit the fourth lap; I was alone。 Then it hit me。 I realized that nobody had given up。 Instead; everyone had already finished。 As I ran that last lap; I cried。 I realized that every boy and girl in my class had beaten me; and 12 minutes; 42 seconds after starting; I crossed the finish line。 I fell to the ground and shed oceans。 I was so embarrassed。
Suddenly my coach ran up to me and picked me up; yelling;“You did it。 Manuel!Manuel; you finished; son。 You finished!”He looked me straight in the eyes; waving a piece of paper in his hand。 It was my goal for the day; which I had forgotten。 I had given it to him before class。 He read it aloud to everyone。 It simply said;“I; Manuel Diotte; will finish the mile run tomorrow; e what may。 No pain or frustration will stop me。 For I am more than capable of finishing; and with God as my strength; I will finish。” Signed; Manuel Diotte—with a little smiling face inside the D; as I always sign my name。 My heart lifted。 My tears went away; and I had a smile on my face as if I had eaten a banana。 My classmates applauded and gave me my first standing ovation5。 It was then I realized winning isn’t always finishing first。 Sometimes winning is just finishing。
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勇气就是敢于冒险,勇于进取,勇往直前。在工作和生活中,你经常对自己的思想、行为或动机提出质疑吗?若你不锻炼经常检验自己的能力,你不仅会丧失信心,更重要的是,你认识自我、朋友和客户的能力也将丧失殆尽。
面对抉择与挑战时,你要时刻警醒自己,这样可以使勇气倍增,也可以发现对自己至关重要的东西;同时,对你有意义的特殊情形,你想获得的结果或解决问题的方法也会凸显出来。
很多人都不能过上他们理想中的生活。如果现实与理想相去甚远,不要怨天尤人。要清楚你希望达到的目标,然后对你追求目标所采取的行动进行检验,看其适当与否。把你的回答与别人对你寄予的期望加以比较。要记住,事业的成功和生活的美满都需要深入地了解自己,并确立适当的目标。
勇气能让人形成自省的习惯,并让你的感受真实、适当。假如你想成长起来并获得成功,把这种自我评价运用到工作和生活中就显得很重要了。这个方法确实有效。
好奇之心,人人都有,但好奇需要勇气(切不可过分)。学习一些生活常识,以及了解与你打交道的人是大有裨益的。无论你想做什么,都要努力找到该做的理由来说服自己,这对活跃你的思维很有好处。如果写日记对你有帮助的话,你就应该去做。一段时日过后,可以回头看看,在某一问题上,你曾经的行动(或反应)所产生的结果。这样,在面对未来或类似的问题�