r any number of other factors acting alone or together。 The real trick to self…acceptance is to see that the goal is unattainable； at least for now； and shifting your focus to acplishing what you can acplish under the circumstances。 That could include evaluating your original goal and deciding whether or not to continue with it。 It also means giving yourself credit for what you have acplished and what you have learned from your experiences。
The parison Trap
Judging yourself by what others have acplished is a sure way to lower your self…acceptance。 Have you noticed that you never pare yourself to people who seem to aspire to less than you do and that you always chose those people who are the top performers or the most popular as your yardstick3 for success？ Are you as good as your friends； your brother or sister； your parents or Joe Blow？ And how about trying to be like “normal” people are？ （And who or what determines what is “normal”？） Can you only be good if you’re better than someone else？ When we use other people as our yardstick； we aren’t taking into consideration our own personal limitations or talents。 For example； if someone seems to be more articulate than you； you can respond in one of two ways： You can bee upset and depressed by telling yourself that you should be as articulate4 as that person； or you can recognize and accept the fact that there are probably a lot of people out there who are more articulate than you at certain times and under certain circumstances and that is OK。 It doesn’t mean a thing about you。 Playing the parison game is a dead end street。 By doing that you are probably missing some other qualities by which you can judge your own worth； like your honesty； friendliness； caring nature； dedication and so forth。 And really； people don’t value you for how much you are like someone else。 They do value you for the ways you are being you。。 最好的txt下载网
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Passivity5
Just passively letting your life happen may make it more difficult to accept yourself。 Part of accepting yourself is engaging in activities that help you like yourself。 Think back to those times when you weren’t concerned about your acceptability。 What kinds of things were you doing？ How were you spending your time？ To accept and like yourself means that you approve of how you are living your life。 If you aren’t accepting yourself； you probably don’t like the activities you’re engaged in。 You are feeling dissatisfied。 A way to increase your self…acceptance is to bee more actively engaged in your life。 Look for those activities and relationships that give you the most enjoyment —not necessarily the most enjoyment you could possibly have； but the most you can get from your choices at the moment。 Try new things； perhaps things you have always wanted to try but didn’t because you felt you couldn’t do them。 Try them with the attitude that you want to know what it would actually be like to do them。 You may find that they are enjoyable and that you want to continue them。 You may find that they are OK； but not worth continuing。 You may find that you don’t like them at all and feel fine about crossing them off your list of things to do。 Trying and getting real experience is a way of feeling better about yourself and gaining more confidence in your abilities。
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爱自己
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小时候，我总觉得自爱是一种虚荣，不是优点。
长大后，像很多人一样，我逐渐摈弃了这种观念。虚荣和自爱之间有着天壤之别。
我们都在人世间努力奋斗，所追寻的或多或少有几分相似：奉献、让我们的人生有价值、爱与被爱、欢笑甚至……哭泣。
我们寻求庇护所、食物、伴侣、温暖、衣服、家庭、朋友，追求赞赏、爱情和自尊。我们都不完美。通常，在追求过程中，我们忘记了生活中细微的快乐。过分沉溺在过去，专注在未来，和其他的一切可能，结果我们的今天反而遗失了。让昨天长眠吧，活在今天，来期待和梦想明天。
如果某些部分有损你的形象，妨碍你去爱自己，只要你能够，改变它吧！生活中有太多控制不了的事，但是我们自己，却可以控制。你是黏土，同时也是雕刻家，你有能力创造一幅杰作。模型和样板已经形成，你要做的只是精雕细琢。
这个任务轻松吗？不，它有瑕疵和缺陷，你需要坚持不懈地努力，像一个雕刻家那样在作品完成之前，反复雕琢。雕塑家难道会因为某件作品有一点瑕疵或裂痕，就认为该作品毫无价值，而将之抛弃吗？当然不会，那样的话，世间还有艺术珍品吗？我想一件都没有。你想想，会有多少杰作在创造的过程中是毫无缺陷、没有经过任何改动、一蹴而就的呢？我们怎能看不见所有艺术品中最最珍品的人类呢？它才是最有生命力、生生不息的杰作。
多少次，你听到一个这样的问题：人类将何去何从？至少在我看来，这个答案要看我们的创造，因为是我们在编织未来。你就是无价之宝，万事万物中无可替代。尽管身为杰作，我们并不完美，但别让昨天阻碍你明天的成就。
再重申一次，这些言语只是我个人的感受和想法，人的思想会随着明天的日落而改变，尽管我也在继续雕琢这块与生俱来的泥塑，它就叫做自我。
Love of Self
Anonymous
When I was younger； I thought that to love one’s self was vanity and not a virtuous1 trait。
As I have grown older； that belief has passed away； as have so many others。 There is a vast deviation2 between being vain and loving one’s self。
We are all in this world together striving for more or less the same things。 To contribute and have our lives count for something。 To love and be loved； to laugh and…yes； to cry。
We seek shelter； nourishment； a mate； warmth； clothing； family； friends； we seek approval； love and self…esteem。 We are all imperfect。 Often during our search we forget to simply enjoy what life is。 We bee so caught up in what could have been； what should be； what might be； that many of our todays are lost。 Let yesterday rest； live for today； hope and dream for your tomorrows。
If there is some part of you that lessens your self…image； some part of you that prevents you from loving yourself； change it； for only you can。 Life is filled with things we have no control over； but ourselves； we can control。 You are the clay； you are the sculptor3 and you have the ability to create a masterpiece。 The shape and form are there。 You have only to refine the work。
Is the task an easy one？ No。 There will be sips and flaws and you will be required to work and rework just as a sculptor must rework the clay before the piece is pleted。 Should the sculptor throw out the piece condemning it as worthless because of a blemish or nick？ Of course not； where then would all the world’s treasured art be？ I doubt we would have any。 How many masterpieces do you think have been created in one fell…swoop； a first effort pletely successful without error； without change？ Is it possible we fail to see that mankind is the most marvelous of all works of art？ A living； continuous； developing work of art。
How often have you heard the question“what is the human race ing to”？ The answer； in my mind at least； is whatever we make it； for we are the weavers4 of tomorrow。 You are a treasure； beyond price； one of a kind； irreplaceable5。 Not perfect but well on your way to being a masterpiece。 Do not let your yesterdays hinder tomorrow’s achievements。
Again； I say to you that these words are merely feelings and thoughts； one person’s outlook and subject to change with tomorrows setting sun； as I too continue to sculpt the lump of clay given to me at birth； called self。
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接受自己（1）
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爱自己是件很困难的事，这真是一种很奇怪的现象！或许有人以为这是世界上最容易的事，因为我们始终都在关心自己。我们总对能获得多少、表现多好、如何舒适地生活怀有极大的兴趣。那为何真正地爱自己就那么难呢？
当然，爱自己并不意味着放纵自己。很多人都没有真正地爱过自己，他们知道，很多东西并不是自己渴望就能得到的。每个人都有很多想法，有不同反应和好恶。他们会认为：没有这些，他们会更快乐。当一个人肯定自己某些方面而厌恶其他方面时，他就作出了判断。于是，我们对自身不满的方面被压制下去，不想去了解，也不想承认它的存在。这是非常有碍自己成长的方式。
讨厌自己看似消极的一面也是一种愚蠢的做法。每次这种消极面出现的时候都要自责，从而使事情变得更为糟糕，恐惧和挑衅也随之而来。若你想以一种平和的方式对待自己，装作消极方面——争强好胜、脾气暴躁、自负享乐等倾向都不存在，那是没有裨益的。若我们如此伪装自己，那就与现实相去甚远，也就人为地把自己割裂了。这样的人即使是健全的，给我们的外表印象也未必真实。我们都曾遇到过这样的人，外表甜美得不切实际，因为那是经过伪装和压制的。自责�