It’s different when a loved one inflicts a wound； lets you down； tramples all over your ； play down the transgression； almost； you might say； condone it –
when what you really want is to pound their guilt； draw attention to the crime for which no remorse is sufficient。 Punish them for your pain； even at the expense of destroying your own self。
Bitterness is a disease； the only cure forgiveness。 But not everyone is capable of summoning the inner strength required for such a feat。
Therefore； it is advisable to forestall situations that call for these heroic deeds； by acknowledging hurt openly and honestly； at an early stage： before the wound begins to fester。
Another safety device is for your own part to ensure that nothing you say or do could bee a hot bed for such dangerous deep resentment。
It is the need for forgiveness； as much as the lack of it； that kills relationships。